Jo had to go back in time to a time and an activity that she remembered gave Emma joy. She experimented and bought a shredder. Emma now has a business – Master Shredder - with 4 business clients including a credit union and solictors’ offices. She can now see a reason to communicate and is wanting to go out on her own and with friends.

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Lucy and her family have been very thoughtful in creating a role at her local florist. In this article we share the very practical steps they took.

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At InCharge, our mission is about working with people to discern the personal and collective elements that are going to make self direction a lasting experience.

Our work this year has largely been with people who require the assistance of others, mostly family, to be directing their supports. We were thrilled to have raised funds which have allowed us to develop a terrific team and undertake our first Ally Project. We have continued to strengthen our partnership with Supported Living Network and its members, as well meeting and working with families in a number of other forums.

In this last piece for 2013 I would like to reflect on the key issues of significance emerging from our work and what we find has been of assistance to people on the path of self-direction.

People’s great ideas require noticing and safeguarding for innovation to be replicated

Often people have no shortage of fabulous ideas and the energy and tenacity to try, fail and try again. They have found a freedom, a satisfaction in directing their supports and funding. They are finding a release and the ability to work on things they have been thinking about for some time but haven’t had the opportunity to do because of the traditional disability service system.

We have found that there is great deal of worth in helping people reflect on their successes and the enormous achievements they are making.

In reflecting with people, we can also be of practical use through recording systems or ways of doing things that are working for them. Through this we find people more easily notice things that they can replicate and discard things that aren’t working. For example, many people are developing very interesting ways of recruiting paid supporters. Simply listening and recording what people have done and offering perspective (eg “It sounds like you have most success using a local networking approach to recruiting.” “That’s right, I do!”) is extremely helpful.

Validating people’s efforts, simply put, helps people to keep going.

It is also vital that people connect with each other and investing in peer-support is a crucial piece of the puzzle.

While many people have great ideas this sometimes masks that they may be experiencing challenges. They look super confident and super productive to the outside world. Of course people are productive. But every person is still on their own path with its challenges and its ups and downs.

With families who are doing a lot of the imagining and thinking with their family member, they can still be blocked by the same things that block society in general; for example, low expectations, not having a sense of what is possible beyond current experience, having past negative experiences that make us risk averse, and trying to work things so that we can get on with our own lives. This means that we too might only be making choices within the perspective or experience we know.

‘Choice’ is a word so bandied about. We have found it very helpful to find ways of working with people that develop trust. When trust is present, it is possible to ask questions and have conversations in which people can start to see choices that they didn’t think were once possible. People must be exposed and experience other peer leaders who are doing things they might not have imagined possible.

Where once services did all (or nothing)

We’ve been very used to a system in which professionals and service providers have been invested as the ‘solution-makers’. This model has rendered invisible the social innovation capacity of people with disability to develop their own solutions as it generates a ‘solution-receiver’ role which is largely passive. The search for solutions outside oneself means that services end up (both if you can get a service and also if you can’t get a service) playing a big role in people’s lives.

I invite you to think for a moment about how you become known to others. How do you form relationships? We meet people throughout our life as we venture forth. School, work, university, travel, leisure, community involvement, political and religious interests. Whatever. Think of all the places and ways we meet people. Some who stick; moving from acquaintance to friend, some becoming a best friend, a girlfriend or boyfriend, perhaps a partner.

Imagine them like circles around you[1]. Those closest to you in an inner circle. Those who are more like colleagues and acquaintances in a more distant circle. The services you connect with on the outer circle. These web of relationships provide us with strength, identity, improved mental health, fun, belonging, assistance and all those other thoroughly researched and documented things we know relationships provide.

The life experiences of many people with disability and their families can be quite different.  People may be more visible in our communities that at any other time in our history, but too few remain truly known. Isolation is still a common experience. There are many possible reasons for this. But what it results in is often a more fragile or smaller web of relationships.

As you become isolated you may rely on ‘the system’ more. That same system that is invested with ‘having all the answers’. Additionally it is a highly changeable system where people come and go from their jobs, where Departments re-shuffle, where funding and eligibility for programs waxes and wanes. Where the quality of what you get depends highly upon the values, skills and experience of the person at the other end of the line (regardless of how much training they receive).

So now we have an image of quite fragile networks and friendships around people, and a service layer that is also compromised (but heavily invested in).

Building supportive relationships is crucial for sustainability of self-directed supports

In NSW the ability to ‘self manage’ funding in certain program areas has, for some time now, offered people something incredibly important. The opportunity to describe goals and needs in your own terms, define the solutions to meet these and to direct the use of resources to achieve them.

This is a hugely innovative force. People’s ideas and solutions have leapt forth. People’s capacity to create, sublime.

Service providers supporting people to self-manage are now ‘stepping back’.

So what happens when we are choosing this path but still in a context of fragile, emergent or perhaps even very few relationships?

This is a big question for the sustainability of a self-directed experience. All that energy, creativity, drive, innovation and liberation needs to be sustained.

The ups and downs in all of our lives are sustained through relationship. All of us need others who hold our life vision and support us achieve it into the longer term.  This is a key aspect we would use to describe friendship, and certainly partnership/marriage, I am sure.

Heart and head learning

We are finding that people are benefiting from input, not just with the technical aspects of self-management but also with the stuff of building relationships for a long lasting and ultimately liberating experience that self-direction is aimed to be.  This is both the case for developing robust informal supports as well as paid supports.

Once you have recruited support workers, for example, how to do you engage them in your vision, support them and develop depth in them so that it is a relationship that bears fruit?

Informal relationships can’t be built overnight.  And we can’t just assume that ‘community’ is now going to take up the space where services have been. The historical experience of segregation and congregation has meant that our communities are largely unused to, and inexperienced in, including and involving people. Yep, there are many people who are just plain a^&holes. But there are also those who are interested when approached but extremely tentative. They don’t know what to do.  But they might do something if given some assistance.

So there is also a genuine role here for some bridge-building assistance. We find it takes understanding the needs and desires of both parties to achieve a well-supported inclusive community experience.

Key steps have emerged through our work. Building a strong foundation entails clarity of vision by and with the person with disability. It also entails discerning the ideal roles parents and engaged siblings in the support system (and so gaining clarity on what other roles would be of assistance if we don’t want to do them), achieving balance across a range of relationships and building mutuality and reciprocity.

When we talk about stepping out, asking, inviting and connecting, this can be emotionally tricky work. Our fears are present. We might have attended many seminars and intellectually know what the pieces of the relationship-puzzle are, but actually taking that step is a totally different matter.

We have found a couple of things helpful here. Firstly our work has focussed on action-learning from the heart and the gut, and not only the technical skills needed for self-direction. These are adaptive learning skills.

Secondly assisting people to imagine and develop  ‘community engagement’ style roles. These are roles assisting people establish greater links into their community, and build and strengthen relationships with people beyond family. We know the NSW has funded the Ability Links roles in the Hunter as part of the National Disability Insurance Scheme launch. It has said that it will roll out these positions across the state by July 1 2014. The success of roles like these depends upon a lot of factors. We are interested in supporting grass-roots community engagement initiatives with roles developed and governed by people themselves as much as possible. Our work with Supported Living Network shows that the work of community engagement can be highly nuanced and sometimes needs micro-community level work to even establish one successful role in community for a person with disability. This work simply cannot be done without knowing people well and with large case-loads.

So we are developing ways for more people to benefit from independent, grassroots community engagement roles in 2014.

When I first moved to the Blue Mountains I got inspired to look into the Quakers. A certain spiritual curiosity and searching was my initial spark. Their peace work interested me. They seemed to have quite a community going. Indeed I discovered their work was interesting and the people associated with it. It was a deliberately quiet space. People seemed to be who they were. There was no need to be super competent or outgoing.

Over a cup of coffee one day after meeting I met Jasmyn who was getting her garden going. I said I wanted to get a garden going but was unsure. She said ‘you have to contact Josie. She has helped me so much with my garden.’ I left it a bit….one day I rang Josie. Sure enough Josie ran a business where she gardened alongside people. She didn’t just come and do the work and leave. Together we created a vision and then she was there beside me helping it come to life!

Josie knows lots of people. I invited her to my birthday and other things too. Recently she invited us to Katie’s house. Katie runs another business buying local produce direct and then making group meals, like a pop-up restaurant in her own home. The room was full of wonderful people, eating wonderful food including another Canadian Australian couple like us. I solidified my desire to keep my garden going. I’ve tried to think of people I know who would be interested and invite them along too.

This story is not at all extraordinary. But it is illustrative of the natural ways that we make new connections. It starts from mutual interest and it branches from there. It can happen in person or in cyber-space. I have many online connections I am yet to meet. Many of us are perhaps lucky enough not to even really think about it – it just happens.

These are the kinds of pathways and connections that make a difference in everyone’s lives. The means can differ, but I believe everyone wants to connect. They might not articulate it consciously or verbally, but people articulate it through their health, their body, their actions, their energy. The way connection happens is individual and there is not some check-list of success to aspire to.

Self-directed funding, self-directed supports like the National Disability Insurance Scheme afford us the opportunity to invest in the things that matter, rather than building more of the same. We can absolutely use resources to create opportunities and pathways with people, develop fertile ground, and undertake nuanced, supportive work alongside people in finding and building their tribe.